In a Coma With No Will and No Power of Attorney | Jura Virkutyte

A collapsed lung, a coma, and a cancer diagnosis, and not one document in place for the family waiting outside the ICU. In this episode, Dr. Jura Virkutyte, environmental health scientist and software QA and product lead on the ENDevo team, joins host Niki Weiss to talk about what incapacity does to a family that never planned, why people refuse to hear the conversation, and what it finally took for her to build her own plan. CHAPTERS 0:00 Meet Jura Virkutyte, scientist, QA lead, and cancer survivor 0:32 From Lithuania to Finland, Sweden, and Australia 1:13 A founders group, ten years in QA, and why she joined ENDevo 2:38 Diagnosed in 2023: can my family get into my phone? 3:19 In a coma with collapsed lungs: "it might be too late" 3:56 Everyone knows to call 911. Nobody knows the next steps 4:43 The friends who ran the logistics from the hospital 5:30 Symptoms she dismissed: night sweats, a cough, exhaustion 6:52 "My lungs collapsed. I couldn't breathe anymore." 7:27 The ER, oxygen bottles, and sepsis 8:40 No will, no power of attorney, and why we refuse to listen 10:13 Nudged into action, and the catch-22 of planning while sick 11:57 "Oh by the way, you have cancer," and why it didn't register 13:08 Breathing is primal: nothing else matters when you can't 14:58 A grapefruit-sized mass and a one percent chance 16:06 Ovarian cancer, fluid in the lungs, a puzzling diagnosis 17:21 Surgeons at the bedside, then the rolling-wave miracle 18:15 Still no plan: too afraid to talk, no time to think 19:51 "If I start planning, that means I'm really dying" 20:23 Why QA matters when planning tools go into enterprises 21:26 Taken by the hand: small steps so people don't shut down 24:08 Bringing her wife into every decision 26:12 Peace of mind for those you leave behind 27:30 Live fully, die ready, and two takeaways 29:49 Not on LinkedIn: a digital footprint shut down by choice WHAT YOU WILL LEARN - Why incapacity, not death, is the gap most families never plan for: phones, bills, accounts, and medical decisions while you are still alive - The logistics that hit first: who takes care of the kids, the dog, the rides, and an aging parent - Why people block out the conversation, and the catch-22 of trying to plan only after a diagnosis - What a survivor noticed when she tested the planning process as a QA professional: small steps, no deadline, nothing that threatens - Why the plan has to include your spouse and family, not just you - Her two takeaways: start it and finish it, and stop being afraid to talk about death ENDevo | YouTube package | Jura Virkutyte | v1, Oct 17, 2026 Page 3 Start your plan and take the free assessment: https://finalplaybook.com/main-page LISTEN TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/death-and-dying-in-the-digital-age/id1775499012 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MQkOgvyPQnLEz1fO9BHkY Subscribe: @DigitalLegacyPodcast FOLLOW US Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/endevo_digitallegacy/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@endevo_digitallegacy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/endevo.digitallegacy Download the My Final Playbook app: Apple App Store: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/my-final-playbook/id6791298756 Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=endevo.life.finalplaybook #deathanddyinginthedigitalage #ENDevo #digitallegacy #myfinalplaybook Disclaimer: This channel is for educational purposes only and does not provide medical, legal, or financial advice.